Here’s a question for you.
Doesn’t it scare the friggin’ bejeesus outta your shy little (fast) beating heart when you’re pressured to speak up in social settings?
I’ve spent so much time in my head thinking about what to say, when to say it and when to cut in with it to “contribute” to the conversation. All that time spent thinking, never made it to “go time” when I’d actually say something. So much anxiety. So little result. This one thing changed everything for me.
You don’t have to talk.
What?! That’s crazy right. What if people think I’m not…
I’ve never been qualified for the work I end up doing. Sis here doesn’t even have a degree. But whether it was starting a podcast, launching a social media campaign for clients back when it wasn’t even “a thing”, or diving headfirst into the telecommunications and technology industry when I joined Circles.Life, I’ve never had the knowledge or know-how of those subject matters when I started working on them, but as long as someone trusted me, I’d do what I can to figure it out along the way.
I realized I have a way of thinking, a way of approaching…
I awoke one morning at 4am after falling asleep at midnight. Maybe it was the wine. I jolted awake and these thoughts ran wildly through my mind.
This one is for you fellow night owls. Whatever is eating you up inside today, be it:
I contemplate some of the mysteries of the world that have begun to reveal its secrets to me
It’s not like I just turned 27 or anything. (Oh look, it’s November. Over six months since my birthday.) I just didn’t feel motivated to write as much because I’m still dealing with my new emerging inner sloth. Is this a sign of aging or just plain laziness? All I know is I’ve lost some of that youthful go-go-go Energiser fuelled enthusiasm I had for every of my passions. These days, I’m most passionate about being lazy. Anyway, I really wanted to…
You’re not what they want.
This haunted me for several weeks, brought upon by several rejections and being passed over for projects. As much as I know this to be untrue, I eventually got consumed by this nagging nightmare of a thought,
You’re not good enough. You’re too different.”
Not just that. I didn’t have what most brands wanted.
I am an intense “over-sharer”. I overflow from the brim of thought chalices. In a time of listicles and short-form content that take 30 seconds to consume, I was far too much and too long.
I don’t have mass reach. Instead…
Uncovering new ways of working towards my career goals from getting clear on my aspirations.
So it’s been awhile since I’ve written one of these 5 Lessons posts… But Kenneth and I recently chatted about this Yelp Employee’s Open Letter to her CEO (and of course it just had to be written by a millennial) and we basically discussed what it means to pay our dues, how to raise important issues in a professional way and what real empathy would take the form of. That kinda made me think about career lessons.
I’m only 26-going-on-27 and I grew up in…
I wrote this 2 years ago and before my husband and I even entertained the thought of getting married. All lessons still apply.
“I can’t believe you’ve been with your boyfriend for five years!”
I get that quite often from friends and family and even I find it surprising sometimes that I’ve managed to stay in a committed and stable relationship with a partner I can trust, communicate with and love in my own way for half a decade. …